Friendship, the word itself is relative and has a deep selfless meaning. Friendship is synonymous with fraternity of like minds. In the present world of competition, real friendship often goes fade in the presence of prominent hostility and selfishness. We can see more of colleagues and mates in the present generation relationships, which people often, define as friendship but which is actually not. The real friendship can only be tested in tough times as it is said that “A Friend In Need Is a Friend Indeed”. Everyone wants to be friend with the person who is successful in life and the same person becomes friendless when success goes away from him. In a way we can say in the present day context, earning friendship is directly proportional to success. More success more friends and vice versa. |
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| Babita Sinha |
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Definition of friendship varies from place to place, individual to individual and time to time as well. Two kindergarten kids become friends if they discover same food in their tiffin boxes or have wore same color shocks. It is as innocent and pure as minerals. And as we grow choice of friends becomes selective and mainly depends on equality in interest. Finding a friend is always difficult. Friendship has different meaning in different places like when we were in our village or small towns, we could easily make friends as there was less fear factor and relationship often becomes good friendship which last for long. However, in recent times it has been noticed that true friendship also started vanishing even in village areas. Friendship in big cities seems to be a difficult task as we are always advised to be careful in being friendly in cities.
In my case it is just a couple of months that I came to Delhi to live in. As usual there were many dos and don’ts from all the well wishers back home before I came to Delhi like not to talk or open door to strangers, deny any offers, not to believe people etc. Hence, clearly a fear factor is running on my head. Even my neighbors who often come to talk to me, offer me food prepared by them or invite me to their home, I definitely get confused. I don’t clearly deny but always keep low to talk to them and try to find an excuse to say them no. Whenever I find them talking nicely to me, I just cannot reciprocate properly presuming a wrong intention if they have. They might not have any wrong intention, may be lending me a helping hand of support to make me familiar but my resistance in openness with them continues. Doing that, I might be losing few good friends, and we remain in the same state of fear and doubt. Ultimately, the fear factor got lessened after I met couple of Bishnupriya Manipuri married ladies of equal age group as I felt confident and at home while talking to them and became friendly with them in no time. May be the typical BM thread worked in that case likewise we say “ Amar maanu or amar bangaal”.
However, we should be very careful in choosing or making friends as we know that every relationship we have like parents, siblings, and others are which we are born with or we get by default. Again friendship is the only relationship, which we can opt by our own choice and compatibility.
As we know that our mate’s choice is in our hand or we can ourselves choose our own way of living, we can definitely avoid any misdeeds or negative effects, provided we also don’t keep wrong intentions for any. Following that we can live bravely, honestly, love others and get loved to get the ultimate taste of life. Let there exist only friends no foes….
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